September 11th is definitely a day that will stick in our minds forever. Saying, "We will never forget," seems a little cliche, yet still very accurate.
I look at this day through different glasses now. The widowhood initiation for them was sudden and tragic nine years ago. I often wonder if they ever want to STOP sharing the death anniversary of their loved one with the entire country. I know for me, that day was not one to celebrate, commemorate, or exalt. It was a day that I wanted to spend by myself... within my own thoughts. I didn't need or want other people sharing this day with me. I want to celebrate his life, not his death. I can't help but wonder if the 9/11 widows ever feel this way.
Make no mistake, I don't feel we should ever forget the death of our loved ones, just be free to handle the death anniversary in a not so public manner.
Maybe after I have nine years under my "widow belt" I will feel differently, but this year, in this moment, I feel for the widows that never get to acknowledge their spouse's death without the whole country watching.
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2 comments:
Interesting thoughts - challenging ones. I have discovered that we all grieve differently. Some, perhaps need to the outward attention, and many others prefer to not put their grief on display. When my wife was going through her cancer surgeries, I wanted to be left alone, but my role as a minister prevented me from being able to do that. I think that I would be a lot more like you if I faced death in such a personal way.
Very Interesting.
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